Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Thanks. I Think.

MENTAL STATUS: "Less frazzled." The house is only semi-clean, I still need food for tonight's BBQ, but I did manage to get a lot done yesterday.

I think I've become one of those people who can't take a compliment.

Oh, people try, but I just can't accept it and move on. And now I've taken this rebuking of praise a step further and have switched to analyzing them, as well.

Take Sunday, for example. I haven't seen the mother (or her family) of my daughter's friend in about a year. She sees me for the first time and notices that I've highlighted my hair. Fine. She even gushes on about how much she likes it. I thank her quickly--without making eye contact because I can't accept a compliment--and try to switch subjects. But then her mother steps into the picture and begins harping on my hair now. She begins saying stuff like how great it looks now. How much younger I look now.

Okay. My hair looks good, but that good? Whatever.

Then, on Monday I see my friend's sister, who's also in town. She sees me and goes on and on about my hair, how great it looks, how she wouldn't have recognized me, how much younger I look, yada yada.

At this point, I'm REALLY not happy, but I manage a polite smile of thanks. I think. But why should I be thankful? These women have all but said I look a thousand times better than I did a year ago. Hey, I looked good before! Trust me. And what's with the younger looking remark? Just how old did they think I was, anyway? I'm in my thirties!! Gee, was I that repulsive before? I had no idea my Quasimodo-grandmotherly face offended.

**deep sigh** See? I can't take a compliment.

Obviously, I'm been dwelling over this for WAY too long. I'll blame it on stress again.

Anyway, I'm leaving Tomorrow--EARLY. But I won't tell you where I'm going or when I'll be back. But I just recharged the camera, so you can be sure I'll have plenty of pictures.


Have fun while I'm away.

8 comments:

Chicki said...

Yes, you sound stressed. If three people complimented you on your new look, it must be great. And since none of us are getting any younger, there's nothing wrong with someone saying the style makes you look younger. If you're 35, looking 30 is a good thing.

Have a good trip and RELAX!

Kristen Painter said...

I agree. You need to chill. I used to be the same way about compliments, but then I just decided to say thank you and leave it at that. Hey, it's a good thing to be complimented!

Unless it's like a construction worker or a greasy biker or a guy like that. Then I probably wouldn't say thanks.

Stephanie said...

Yes, I'm one of those who can't take a compliment, too. Sad to say...but as my husband puts it...it's more annoying for you to argue than to just say thank you and move one.

Think about it this way...how would you feel if they didn't notice anything? Or even suggested the hair you had last year looked better? That would really get your dander up, huh? ;o) just say thank you and grumble later to us. HA!

Have fun on your trip!

Chelle Sandell said...

I've done the same thing. Everyone thought it was my time of the month. Grrr! Enjoy your trip! I hope it helps to refresh your brain!!

Priya said...

OOOh, a mysterious trip...hmmmm

Babe King said...

Sounds to me like you can TAKE a compliment. It's just where you shove it that's the problem. :-)

Annalee Blysse said...

Hope you had a great trip!

Ember Case said...

I have a problem with compliments too. I always end up trying to change the subject - mostly, I just hate being the center of attention.

Hope you have a great trip!