Monday, November 15, 2010

The Agony of the Wait

MOOD STATUS: "Frustrated".


Are you waiting for news? I am, too! And it's AGONY.

I said last week, I've been doing really well with my new WIP. And that's true, but I'm feeling a little distracted waiting for the news, which is making it difficult to put my heart into this book.

You see, I have my third book under submission right now with a publisher and I'm getting a bit antsy. I've been waiting well over NINE MONTHS so far and still haven't heard a thing. I mean, nine months! I'd have a baby by now at least. SOMETHING!

Oh, sorry. I'm calmer now. I promise.

But honestly, you'd think the waiting this would get easier after you're published. Wrongo. In fact, I think it gets worse. Yes, I really do. Because with each added week wait, a little piece of my ego gets flushed down the toilet.

sigh


Of course now that I mentioned this waiting I'm sure I'll hear today--and it won't be good news. LOL. But you know what? At this point, I'd take the bad news over a longer wait.

What about you?
Which do you think is worse: the wait or the rejection?


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In other GOOD news, I got another really sweet review for Georgie on His Mind by CataRomance Singe titles this weekend. If you want, you can check it out HERE.

43 comments:

Elaine AM Smith said...

I feel for you. I know about waiting messing with your head. Keep hoping.
I have to say I hate waiting for news but short waits are better than nothing to wait for?!

Joanna St. James said...

I would take the wait nothing is better than good news even if I have to wait for it. That said you won a book from Friday's giveaway congratulations. I know its not the call but it should cheer you up for a few days.

Susan Fields said...

What an awesome review - congratulations!

At first, I kind of like the waiting. It's exciting - like waiting for Christmas morning. But, as time goes by, I want to hear something...anything. After enough time goes by, I'd take the rejection over the waiting.

Katie Ganshert said...

LOL - it totally depends! If the wait ends with good news, then the rejection is definitely harder.

I'm sorry you're waiting! I don't like it either. There's always something to wait for, isn't there?

Wendy Paine Miller said...

Waiting here too.

I understand the compression of anticipation.

I keep leveling my expectations and praying a lot. Prayer has been one of the only things to help.

~ Wendy

Sarah Forgrave said...

9 months...oy! I just submitted requested material to an editor last week, so I guess I'll buckle up for the loooong ride right beside you. :)

Heather Sunseri said...

That is a long wait. Sorry. But the dreams are still alive while waiting. Rejection just seems a little final. But then again, there's always other publishers. I'm doing a little bit of waiting myself. I guess that's just part of it, huh? My fingers are crossed for you!

Linda G. said...

The wait is always harder...until it ends in a rejection, which magnifies the suck factor. I hope you hear something POSITIVE soon. :)

Anne Gallagher said...

I'm in the waiting boat with you. It's not the wait, I think that kills us, it's the possible outcome. If, going in they said, "It's acceptable but you have to wait." That would be one thing.

No, they just say, "Thanks, we'll get back to you." Hate that.

Maria Zannini said...

I'd rather take the rejection rather than the wait. At least if you're rejected you can pitch it elsewhere.

With waiting, your hands are tied.

I hope they call you soon. And it better come with chocolates. :)

T. Anne said...

*hugs* I'm waiting for news too. It seems like publishing is the slowest route to happiness on the planet. Does that even make sense? lol!

Susanne Drazic said...

The wait or the rejection? Not sure I'd want either, but I think I'll have to pick the wait.

Lynn said...

I'd say waiting too! Although if the news came in letter format, I may just wait to open fearing what may be inside!

Linda Kage said...

9 MONTHS?!?! I would be climbing the walls by now. I'm with you, the wait is worse after you've been published.

Congrats on the review!!

Joanne said...

Tough question. At least with waiting, there's always possibility and a hint of anticipation. Rejection sort of closes that door and we start all over again :/ So I'd pick wait. Good luck, hope you hear good news soon!

Rula Sinara said...

Both are hard, but I'd have to say the waiting is worse because your mind is constantly wandering and wondering. It's definitely distracting. At least with a rejection (as much as it hurts), you know what you're dealing with so you can face it and move on...or use it as a learning tool. Waiting has no such advantage.

Valerie Ipson said...

I think I'm with Rula. At least with rejection you can finally say "Okay, well then..." and move on.

Stephanie Faris said...

The rejection, definitely. But I've found the best thing to do is have more than one thing out at a time. That way hopefully you're hearing about more than one thing. Not so easy for you published authors to do, though, since you usually have just one publisher you're working with!

Carol Kilgore said...

The wait is by far the worst. I have a full out with an agent ... for almost two months now. I'm sure when I hear, it won't be good. I've already mentally accepted that and moved on.

Laura Pauling said...

I'm not waiting for any news right now - and I'm loving. I love not checking email all the time. Waiting is just as hard, b/c every week that goes by, I always think my chances lessen but I hear that's not really true, so stay hopeful!

susanwilson44 said...

Right there with you Jennifer, joined the waiting bench after a THIRD set of revisions. Will I ever get them right? How knows, hoping you hear good news soon x

Caroline Starr Rose said...

The wait is harder than the rejection. I'm on sub again, too, but I'm finding the process much more pleasant with an agent backing me. :)

KarenG said...

Ugh I hate waiting, and this sounds interminable! 9 months? Holy crap!

Cindy R. Wilson said...

9 months? Oh boy...I hope I don't have to wait that long to hear the news I'm waiting for. Looks like lots of us are playing the waiting game--at least we're in it together :)

Susan R. Mills said...

I'd rather have the rejection than the wait. At least you have an answer. Hope you hear good news soon, though!

blueviolet said...

Oh my gosh, I didn't realize that it took that long to hear back. Unbelievably difficult to wait!

MT said...

I was going to say a quick rejection would be better - but I change my mind! That wouldn't be a good sign. Maybe your long wait will be well worth it. :)

Abby Minard said...

I don't think I could go nine months of waiting! It would kill me- literally. I think my stomach would just turn inside out and I'd get 20 ulcers. Good luck!

Ryan said...

There's nothing worse than hanging on tenterhooks especially for news that's so important. Hopefully you'll be put out of your misery before long.

Mary Aalgaard said...

I guess knowing, even rejection, is better than not knowing. Hope the wait means NOT a rejection.

Diane said...

Do your breathing exercises!!!!

I hear ya on the 9 months and all, that is some patience you're building. Hoping it's right around the corner now! :O)

Kristen Torres-Toro said...

I'm not sure, because I haven't gone through either yet... but I know that both are difficult!

Shannon said...

Waiting for anything is the worst. My mind conjures up all kinds of unlikely scenarios and plays them over and over again. I'd rather know what I'm dealing with than have to guess, wait, and wonder.

Hopefully you'll hear soon!

Stephen Tremp said...

The wait. Definately. I'm the kinda guy that wants to know fairly quickly. Maybe not right away. I mean, you have to give people their space. But sooner rather than later.

Talli Roland said...

Congrats on the nice review!

Waiting is THE WORST! I hate it - and it seems to be such a big part of this industry. I wish things moved a bit faster!

Kara said...

Waiting is terrible! At least with rejection you can move on:)

notesfromnadir said...

I wish you the best of luck w/ your current submission as 9 months is a very long time. Maybe you can send them a link to this blog entry!

Meanwhile, working on your WIP is the best form of writing/waiting therapy.

patti said...

Our whole lives are about hurry up and wait, dear one.

On something. Somebody.

You just relish each moment writing For Him.

It will be enough. It will be enough.

Blessings,
Patti

Jill Kemerer said...

I'm laughing at the "I'd have a baby by now" comment! Ha! So true. Waiting is hard, rejection is hard, I don't know which is worse.

Hope you hear wonderful news, stat!

Catherine West said...

Waiting drives me insane. Seriously. Yes, I know, I am in the wrong profession. Sigh.
Sometimes I've waited so long that when a rejection comes, I almost think it's the best news I've had all day, then I realize, ah, wait a minute...yeah. I don't do so well with rejection either apparently. But then there is that one day, that one email, those few words, that change everything. And all the waiting, the pain and the frustration, is suddenly worth it.

Terri Tiffany said...

I hope you have heard good news! For me the wait is worse. I would rather just get rejected and move on.

Carolyn V. said...

Nine months? That's almost a baby! Ugh! I don't know what I'd do (I'd be eating tons of chocolate)!

Catherine Bybee said...

The wait is harder. But I've learned to ask questions. At 3-4 months I call HQN to make certain they have my submissions. They've lost one at one time, and now I call. If I had an agent, they'd call for me. I don't... so I call.

I have had two things happen.

One was a "I'm sorry to say that I see that we decided to pass on your manuscript. Sorry to not have better news for you." - Hey beats the wait.

Two was... I can't find your MS anywhere but here's my email send it to me... followed by a did you get it letter from me in a week... followed by a email asking for the full MS.

So call. It's a business. Or write a note - email... making certain your not waiting for nothing.